Open Letter of the Week

Personally, I  don’t know much about  the dating scene being that I have been married for 10years.   However, I am well informed about how difficult dating can be through the lives of my friends and others who come to me for advice.  I have seen it get so difficult for some people that they want to give up on finding their soul mate.  There is so much drama to deal with when it comes to dating and finding true love.  Where does all the drama come from and how do we deal with it without throwing in the towel.   Finding  that someone special to share your life with is one of thr greatest gifts of life.  It’s my hope that every human being has that beautiful experience.  My fear is that because of the difficulties and drama that people will give up or simply settle.  From what I understand most of the drama stems from not being able to trust others.  Usually people develop trust issues because they have suffered heartache or they know someone who has suffered greatly.  It’s a natural reaction; when you get hurt the next time you want to protect yourself; however, keeping your heart under lock & key will leave you lonely.  If you find yourself  in situation  I suggest you leave the past in the past and just jump right in.  Negative things happen in our lives but you must continue to live.  The same thought applies to dating.  Not every person is the same, so you can not attach someone else’s wrong doings to everyone else you meet.   If you are beginning or in a relationship with someone that has trust issues there a few ways to minimize the drama that can come about.  If you are only in the early stages of the relationship and the lack of trust is a stumbling block in the relationship you must immediately evaluate your feelings for that person.   If you find that you are not really  that into him or you don’t feel that you two can have a future together it would be wise to end the relationship.  Ending the relationship at that  time would be the best thing to do because more drama will develop the longer you stay together.   On the flip side, if you truly care for that person I suggest you go about things a little differently.  If you can see a future with this person  you should do what you can to show your partner that they can put thier trust in you.  Being patient will also help the situation.  Not putting too much pressure on them will ultimately make a difference.  There is always going to be some drama when it comes to relationships but to increase your happiness you must make choices that minimizes the drama.

This article was written in springnote.